The time is upon us. It’s the first day of a new year and one feels compelled to broadcast a list of impressive goals and improvements to accomplish in the next 365 days. I feel like I give progressively less and less thought to my “resolutions” each year as I get older. It’s not because I don’t want to change or improve myself, and certainly not because I don’t intend to stick to the goals I make. I think it’s because during the past few years I’ve been in mindset where I’m constantly making promises to myself.
Work out more. Be better at menu planning. Clean house on a regular basis. Go to bed earlier. Eat more vegetables. Develop patience. No really, go to bed earlier. Exfoliate often. Do more volunteering. Read. Vacuum your car. Menu plan. Don’t go to bed with a dirty kitchen, and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GO TO BED EARLIER. It becomes a vicious cycle of self-improvement, but more realistically, self-loathing.
I have spent far too much time mentally telling myself what to do, how to do it better, and when to do it. All this does is set me up to feel like a failure. This year I’m making resoYOUtions, or, I guess, resoMEtions…which sounds odd, so let’s keep it in second person.
This year, I am committing to myself. I am going to make decisions in my best interest; not in a selfish way, but in a self-care sort of way. Oh sure, I still have a list of things I want to change about myself and my lifestyle, who doesn’t? But I’m not going to feel guilty when I don’t accomplish them. The only standard I will strive for is being the best version of myself, one day at a time. I won’t apologize for voicing my opinions, won’t feel pressured to do things I don’t want to simply to make others happy, won’t feel ashamed for writing cheesy blogposts with titles like “ResoYOUtions,” and I won’t hate on myself. If I make a mistake, or fall off the proverbial wagon, I will recognize my fallibility as a human, and move on.
Because I know you want to know my secret list of regular resolutions, here they are:
- Respect my body’s needs and go to bed earlier so that I can have the energy I need to live each day to the best of my ability.
- Try to do at least 15 minutes of yoga each day, with the yoga specific goal of working on the splits (it’ll be my party trick for 2014…maybe).
And that’s it…really. On the days when I don’t succeed in these two goals, I will shrug, laugh at myself, and vow to try harder the next day. I think the only path toward self-improvement is through self-acceptance for who you are at any given moment. So that’s my ResoYOUtion. To be me, all the time. Maybe you should focus on being, you, too, and we’ll both be happier for it.
Happy 2013. Namaste.